And the evolution can in fact, be quite fun and liberating. A difference certainly, but not as dramatic of one that one might expect. Many report not understanding why their partners cannot just put more effort in because it will benefit the relationship. But we are, as humans, sexual beings so we try to make our way with little to guide us. Sexual Trauma and Shame It is hard to enjoy something that has caused you pain, fear, or discomfort. Also frequently the case for many women is the experience of being in a sexual relationship in which they felt as if their sexuality was a commodity and that their pleasure was not a priority. In intimate partnerships, many changes also take place over time. But even though low sexual desire is common and significantly affects the lives of women who experience it, no drugs are currently approved for treatment in the United States—a fact that three-quarters of those who identified with the condition in the survey found frustrating. In most progressive relationships today, partners will report placing high level of importance on female sexual enjoyment and satisfaction. In such partnerships, one person is often identified as having the higher sex drive and one as having a low or nonexistent libido. Now that most women work, they are simply unable to also be responsible for all other domestic matters. When the problem is life-disrupting, causes trouble in your relationship or involves physical pain, it's time to talk with your health care professional. These wounds take time and effort to heal. And as many as 58 percent of women polled indicated they would prefer a treatment that can be taken on-demand or when needed for sexual activity. As our children grow, the physical demands decrease but the sense of autonomy and freedom that you had prior to children rarely returns. The result of this is that many women report feeling overwhelmed, overburdened, and exhausted.