Nonetheless, he invited me back to meet his friends staring at him in disbelief thinking he actually succeeded in picking up this Brasilian girl. Eventually, our vacation ended and he headed to the south of Brasil to start his new job. Just two kids from Jersey traveling abroad that happened to bump into each other by stereotypical mistake. I was looking to get away from the city, so I accepted, of course, booking my own hotel room, and arriving days late on my own schedule. I returned to the city to continue living my life, and we kept in touch through semi-frequent Skype chats about our lives as Americans in Brasil. So when we hung out, all of the sudden our platonic friendship transformed into a prospect, even though it had likely already been a prospect for him months back. Arielle Loren says put her bias aside and found that the stereotypes weren't quite true But it did make me reflect on why I had limited myself for so long to just having sex and dating Black men or never challenging the popular stereotypes. He told me to hit him up when I came to his city. We know how hard it is to fight against the stereotypes of black women as lascivious, innately promiscuous, and even predatory, deviants— and yet we feel more than justified in projecting our own labels on others, unfairly sizing up men and defining their capabilities between the sheets or lack thereof based on what so-and-so- said instead of considering the realities of the individual that just might be the guy who can makes your toes curl. It had been almost six months since we had first met, and I certainly had changed. Have you ever tried sex with someone outside your race and found it went against popular stereotypes? He had met and pursued a local Brasilian girl who was beyond sweet. While young Black men certainly enjoyed relationships with young White women in my town, Black girls rarely were seen exploring the same types of relationships. We spent the following days hanging out, walking the beach, but still keeping things platonic. But he was persistent, followed up by Skyping me that evening re-extending his invitation. Did you enjoy yourself or did you want to 'go back home'?