Do you want a casual relationship? If your boyfriend is involved and it's your first time, offer to give him a blow job while the other guy licks you or fucks you- a big reason for this is to take the pressure off your bf, in case he gets nervous and has a hard time getting an erection. Plus it can make browsing for potentials more fun, and reassures the person being picked up that yes, you're all in for it and interested in having a good time. Cute boy's cute friend arrived and also began flirting with me. You need to be really in touch with yourself and what you hope to get out of the experience, and be able to tactfully make sure everyone else is on board. I want to tell you a story, about a simpler time, when alcohol was for drinking and my vagina was free and untamed by monogamy. This all might sound like a crazy amount of information for someone just looking to get a little threesome nookie. It's also important to emphasize that it's casual if it is. And remember- these are just tips from my experience, they may serve you, they may not. And why is it that it seems like such a slutty and taboo thing for a woman to want? Also, talk about who buys the safer sex supplies? First major thing to ask yourself and your partner, if you have one is why do you want to play with three people, and what're your intentions? Do you want a serious relationship? If you're the odd girl out, it helps to hang out with friends after, or do something frivolous and fun- helps to lighten the intensity and makes you feel a little less lonely if that happens to you. However, these tips are here to give you the benefit of my many, many threesome experiences- when it goes well, it can be incredibly fun- extra tongues, extra fingers, extra hotness and something new can make a sexual experience boil over with sexy. It can make it easier and safer emotionally for a couple to explore this sort of play if they don't have to worry about 3 calling at all hours. Not everyone likes nipple stimulation or cunnilingus after all!