Here are some ways to be sexy without having sex: Makeup should make your natural features shine through, instead of drowning out your real face behind all the contouring, pigments, and fake eyelashes. Though it may seem impossible that there will be a time when your boyfriend isn't in the mood, accept that he's human and may not be feeling so sexy. Even if you're not in the middle of a sexy activity, let your man know by kissing or touching him in a subtle way. Before you go in for the kill, ask yourself if your boyfriend is really in the mood for what you have to offer. You can practice this first in the mirror on your own, or look at how models and actresses project lust with their eyes. One reader tells us, "My boyfriend stimulated my PS-spot with his fingers during oral sex; it was a seriously intense experience for both of us. Watch porn with a partner Just as sex toys shouldn't have to be a solo activity, adult films can be a couples' thing too. Kiss him while putting it into his mouth. Here are some signs that you should cut back: Some of the most sexy times you have with your boyfriend will be totally unplanned. Don't throw your appetizer, main course, and dessert on the table at once or your boyfriend will have a stomach ache. Be aware of the things that make you a beautiful, unique, and talented individual. Instead of asking him for reinforcement about your looks, be proud to show off your beautiful face and body. Yes, it should be a balance, but if you're always concerned about him, you won't focus on you and may never discover what you like. Not only will your man find you sexy in them—you feel sexy too.