But scientists say the precise way that genes can influence baby sex is still unclear. The very next night, Joseph himself shows up, rummaging for leftovers in Joe's refrigerator and telling his son "dying is hungry business. I'm the only one who knows the real you. Which version was real? From my first boyfriend to the husband I'd divorced, my father had ignored, mocked or scorned everyone I'd loved. I started having dreams — about incest, about my father — but how could I tell whether they were based on memories? He didn't care about who I was or what I needed. He was greyer than I remembered. Quite possibly, a matter of life and death. I was left with two options. He said men and women could carry this gene, but it is only active in the man. The quality of the father— daughter relationship has also been associated with adolescent risk behaviors. But as my nightmares and memories receded, Jane's were becoming more graphic and disturbing. Paternal involvement is linked to positive social and psychological out- comes; an increased father—daughter communication can delay sexual debut and decrease frequency of engagement in intercourse. The Color Purple , a novel about incest, won the Pulitzer prize. Now he and his wife, Gloria, a woman six years older than I was, announced they were moving nearby, to spend more time with his grandchildren. I'll kill you if you don't leave her alone.