Lightly licking his balls you use your hand to firmly grasp the base of his shaft and slide you hand up and down his shaft. Plate — A once common British rhyming slang for fellate that arose in the gay slang language of Polari that spread in the s. HIV is not passed on through exposure to saliva alone, so a person with HIV performing oral sex on someone who is HIV negative is not considered to be a transmission risk. You do not have to swallow or "deep throat" a man to give good oral sex. If you are living with HIV, taking HIV treatment as prescribed, so that you maintain an undetectable viral load is the most effective way of preventing HIV being passed on. Positive Attitude Imagine that you and your lover have a moment of flirtation. How can you reduce the risks? It depends on the viral load of the person living with HIV and the dental health of the person performing oral sex. Even when a person chooses to be with a variety of partners while dating or through open relationships, we can really enjoy sex on a deeper level when we let ourselves truly BE with people. Because of the aforementioned factors, medical sources advise the use of condoms or other effective barrier methods when performing or receiving oral sex with a partner whose STI status is unknown. Autofellatio is a possible but rare variant; autocunnilingus may also be possible for women with extremely flexible spines. The reasons that fellatio is generally more socially accepted are as follows- Fellatio between disease-free people does not in and of itself lead to disease. Adding different combinations with both hands, or your mouth make for creativity and fun! Afterward you move up to him and embrace him telling him how hot that was for you. If you really have an issue with gagging, let him cum elsewhere whether in a condom, in your hands, on himself, inside you vaginally or anally , on your chest or neck as you revel in it.