We asked each woman to wear whatever makes them feel sexy, and to talk about what being sexy means to them now compared to when they were, say, You feel hesitant, and you keep thinking about what meant your age want in woman. Take your mirror, and bring it to good use. Sexiness exudes from my confidence, smile and acceptance of myself. This self-awareness of being sexy in my 50s is a gift and one I will cherish in every decade going forward! Sometimes, to be a woman over 50 is to feel invisible. Dress the part, wear heels, let your hair down, and feel confident. In sum, are you sexy? What stays constant, though, is me, which means that my sexuality, my identity, and my sense of self-worth and belonging need to come from inside me first. Ask a middle-aged woman, and she might say these slights have whittled away at her self-confidence, tricking her into believing the best years are behind her. It is important not to think of your age when you look in the mirror. You need to ignore others. No one but me dictates my sexiness. Focus on the goal: A few are cancer survivors. Sheryl Roberts, 48 -- "I know I am perfectly imperfect, flaws and all.