All you have to do is — wait for it — use your hands. Though if you need a full-on break, you should absolutely take it. Expressing what you want in bed can be daunting, but it's crucial to enjoyable sex, since your partner can't read your mind. And giving your mouth a break during oral sex allows you to try some other sexy moves, such as making direct eye contact, spitting on the penis, or teasing your partner before resuming mouth action. Sucking dick can be fun, but it's hard work. Oftentimes, using hands during blowjobs not only makes the experience more pleasurable for the one getting their dick sucked, but for the one doing the sucking, as well. When you stroke back up to the top, twist your hand over the head ever so gently. The most important thing to remember? When giving a blowjob, while the primary focus tends to be on your partner's pleasure, remember that it's about both of you — and you're in control. Advertisement "Finding the right pressure is key," Harrison says. As Mal Harrison, sexologist and director of the Center for Erotic Intelligence , explains, "Make an 'O' with your thumb and index, middle, and ring finger. When you've gotten your partner so turned on that they're begging for some mouth action, add your "O" shape directly under your lips, and move your mouth and hands together in one simultaneous motion. Once you've communicated with your partner about using hands during blowjobs, and you've found a good rhythm, try experimenting with various positions and hand placements with your partner's consent, of course. According to Kenneth Play , sex educator, "You have the most control over pressure and friction and speed and location [when you use your hands].