Assume he's going to be offended, upset or angry and you'll be nervous, tentative and defensive — and likely to get the same from him. Tracey Cox says the happier and healthier the man, the better your sex life will be Another reason why this can backfire: He was so weak and needy, that he had completely turned Jane off with his behavior. They take longer to warm up and get turned on in different ways. Ask for one thing at a time Because women are so good at processing information and articulating thoughts, we'll often fire off 10 requests and possible solutions in the one chat. Paying attention to your appearance, breath and body odor can express to your partner that he counts and you care. In all these situations, there is nothing more powerful than introducing a level of dread and uncertainty into the relationship. Only seven per cent of young men report problems being able to keep an erection, whereas up to 52 per cent of men between 40 and 70 will experience some degree of erectile dysfunction. However, after talking openly with your partner, you may discover that your sexual issues are more emotional: You've gone through the typical exercises of seduction, friendship and caring, only to have been rejected and thwarted again and again. What are the reasons your man has stopped having sex with you? A reticent, kind, male patient who struggled with low libido finally opened up about three aspects of his libido: He may have developed a sexual disorder that could be related to a traumatic sexual event in his past that is now surfacing through the intimacy of marriage or relationship.