If we're the ones in control, we're given permission to be completely selfish. You can put your husband's reaction to your hurt, which seems to be a comforting, positive response in another box. None of this is your fault. These fantasies are a heady blend of exhibitionism, voyeurism, bi-curiosity if there's the same sex involved and a human longing for excess if one person feels good, more must feel better. He said that we'd had sex. I asked why he continued, and he said he had really wanted to have sex, and since I wasn't fighting back he didn't feel like he had forced me. The impact of sleep on female sexual response and behavior: Turn to him for comfort - non-sexual touching from him wll help you feel better, and bring you closer together, rather than letting this mistake drive you apart. Sleep deprivation affects sexual behavior and tyrosine hydroxylase TH levels in sexually experienced male rats. While medications are not typically used and are never the primary form of treatment, some somnophiliacs are prescribed antidepressants, long-acting gonadotropin-releasing hormones GnRH, i. You can put your husband's decision to spring this on you months after the initial conversation while you are pregnant into another box I personally feel his behaviour was irresponsible - you both needed another conversation before he did that and I imagine some of your feelings stem from a lizard brain desire to protect your unborn baby - if you were in pain, you would've on some level been concerned about your baby's wellbeing as well as your own. I want to find a healthy way to cope that acknowledges the bad experience I had, and allows me to move on physically and emotionally, so this doesn't fester into something that could really damage our relationship. Does the reproductive cycle influence sleep patterns in women with sleep complaints? Facilitation of the effect testosterone on male sexual behavior in rats deprived of REM sleep. I cannot stress how important it is to know how they differ before jumping to conclusions.