Her work is all about removing the stigma behind not only BDSM but sex itself, and she has some serious thoughts about going to Pound Town on the first date. It's total and complete bullshit. I also happen to like sex, like having it with people to whom I am attracted, and find it to be a great way to get to know somebody. He was a gentleman about it, though praising someone for not forcing or pressuring me to have sex with him seems to be too low a bar. There is no date before sex, Marquette explains. And then, if the sex was good enough or we feel connected somehow, then we would try to build a relationship. Brame proves to be on the same page with the other experts and believes religion is, indeed, the reason such a problem exists. Oliver not his real name, of course was 25, employed in a real, adult way, and looked great in a button down. Both are true, actually. Then you definitely don't want to date that person anyway. Unfortunately, there is no hard and fast rule. It is supposed to be a display of a woman's purity. People don't recognize that women are actually just as sexually inclined as men. Either way, what this journey on the blue ball train taught me is that dating rules are stupid. I am neither slut-shaming or… prude-shaming? Not only have I had sex on the first date, but I have also had sex within hours of meeting someone and it's completely healthy when the act is consensual and when safe sex is practiced. If he never calls you again, GOOD.