She is black, as is her husband, in a scene that is known to be predominantly white. Frustrated at being single in her late 30s, Yvonne invested several thousand pounds in an expensive matchmaking service. When Europeans first came into contact with the African continent, they indulged in an imaginative riot of fantasy. Both men are surprisingly happy to answer my increasingly probing questions. A man has his hand on her ample butt cheeks. Their convictions were later overturned and the miscarriage of justice these young men had suffered exposed. I remember this suspicion as a teenager, feeling that white boys and men, for whom I was often the first black woman they had ever met, did not see me, but whatever it was that they were projecting on to my blackness: I have a vagina, you have a vagina. If there is a stereotype of your average British swinger, Sarah is not it. These boys and I had more in common than any of us probably realised. She has a defeated manner, like the only sober person at a party when everyone is drunk. They were matter-of-fact, as if it was somehow obvious that a black woman might dissolve when exposed to a non-urban environment, like Dracula in sunlight. She talks about arriving, and the breathtaking impression of the venues — imposing stately homes in landscaped gardens, her husband in black tie by her side, being served champagne and oysters, and meeting other like-minded and often impressive couples. We were all living out — albeit in very different ways — the complex and painful legacy of slavery-era sexual ideologies. In an era of mass porn consumption, black male porn actors having sex with white women is a popular subgenre, and BMWW black man white woman erotic novels specifically cater to the fantasy of crudely stereotyped black male aggression and sexual domination. Some were open to casual romance, but had stated that they would not consider a black woman as a long-term partner.